Self-awareness in helping other people

Piggybacking on last week’s post about knowing your strengths—if you don’t know what skills you have that other people don’t, you typically can’t help them or teach them very well. For example: I’m not good at starting conversations with people I don’t know without context. Not one of my strengths.  In a variety of contexts … Read more

Clarifying body language

In episode 798 of the Magnum Edition of Dan Savage’s Savage Lovecast podcast, he had a conversation with Justine Ang Fonte, author of Instagram account Good Byes. (Fabulous account on setting boundaries—highly recommend!) This gem came out of the conversation: “I see what’s happening with your body language right now. What word is that?” There … Read more

On letting go of weaknesses

We tend not to see our own strengths because those skills come to us easily, whether developing the skill was easy or not. Sometimes, we don’t see our strengths because they’ve been downplayed by others over time and we’ve taken to believing the naysayers. This leads to us downplaying our skills while overemphasizing/coveting others’ skills … Read more

Behind the writing scenes

In my book club, we were talking about people not being aware of their own strengths, or downplaying them. I mentioned that this was the theme of a blog post that I’ve been trying to write, but it’s resisting being written, so it’s not publishable yet. One of the ladies requested I write about the … Read more