The Kid mentioned to me the other day: “Mom, did you know Tony the Tiger donates money to keep sports in schools?”
We had a short conversation about it, and I told him I’d look up the details.
Here are the details: you buy a box of Frosted Flakes. You upload your receipt, and Kellogg’s donates $1* to an organization funding school sports. I didn’t look for further details about the organization or what they’re doing—I didn’t think our conversation would be that in-depth.
Did you notice the asterisk? I did, and I had to zoom on my screen to be able to read the fine print.
Max donation is $1M.
So we talked. He was happy about it at first—$1 per box seems pretty good. (We also talked about how sports and sugary cereals don’t really go together.)
But then we talked about the upper limit. And we talked about all the people who could potentially buy the box, thinking they’re donating to school sports, and they’re not.
“But Mom, they’ll stop the commercial [that I saw] once they hit a million, won’t they?”
Well … I don’t know. Maybe. Maybe not. And we talked a bit about how ads are purchased. (Didn’t even get into nefarious intent, just “we bought two weeks’ worth of ads so they run for two weeks, regardless.”) So they might still be running after Kellogg’s has donated their million.
“That is the crappiest thing I’ve ever heard! Oh my goodness!”
Lesson learned: if we want to donate to a cause, donate to it directly.
Valentine’s Day is coming up (if January ever ends)…
A gift that provokes anxiety or guilt (or both!) is not a good gift.
If your partner is reducing or eliminating junk food, buying chocolate, cookies, candies, etc. is not a thoughtful thing to do.
In any of these cases, perhaps have a conversation ahead of time about it so everyone is on the same page.
“I know that you’ve always gotten me this fabulous box of chocolates for Valentine’s Day, but I don’t want to have that much chocolate on hand any more. How about [a smaller portion/ something else/ we just go out] instead?”
Surely there are ways to show and receive love that aren’t filled with sugar? Maybe even aren’t edible at all?
I shared with you a snippet from a podcast regarding emotional contagions and the effect of negative people in your orbit.
If you got to thinking and realized that might be you, this clip might help.
Or if you move through the world feeling you’re less than other people, for any of a variety of reasons, this 13 minutes might change your life. (Feeling “less than” manifests as passive, as defensive, as angry, as perfectionist, as many things…)
While you could watch the whole clip if you have 45 minutes, the piece I’m recommending here starts at 2:10 and goes until 15:00. She starts this clip by talking about weight loss, but that’s not what the clip is about—stick with it.
I was at physical therapy.
There was an older woman finishing up her appointment.
She had one of the standard old white lady perms.
Her hair was dyed purple, fading.
She had on a grey long-sleeved T-shirt with an emerald green short-sleeved T-shirt over it which read BE HAPPY in white letters.
And shiny silver high-top shoes.
(I don’t remember her pants beyond that she was wearing some.)
We exchanged a smile and a hello.
Before she left, she said she had something for me.
She said that “be happy” was her motto and that she liked to give these out, and she handed me a glass stone with a smiley face sticker on it.
As quirky and lovely as she was.
So today, I electronically pass it on to you.
I hope you’re having a good day, and if not, you can find a little something good in it anyway.