I don’t remember the conversation at all, but I do remember at one point in college telling a vegetarian friend of mine that I wasn’t into “all that healthy shit.” Times have changed. For me at that point, there was no draw to the healthy stuff. It wasn’t a defense mechanism—at least not one that … Read more
I’ve talked to so many people who have lost weight (intentionally) and kept their now-too-big pants “just in case.” If keeping the weight off is a priority, get rid of the pants (or get them tailored to fit). By keeping the pants, you’re giving yourself permission to gain the weight back. (The exception would be … Read more
Many people believe that suicide is wrong. (Fortunately, the grey area on that is growing…but that’s not the point of today’s post.) Many religions profess that killing—oneself or others—is wrong. So here’s my question: why does the timeline matter? I don’t hear people speaking out against American health habits as a pro-life argument. But if … Read more
One last one (for now) on spending money and having stuff. (Budgets and smarter spending came before.) It’s worth it to spend more money for good quality that will last longer, though it’s not always easy to tell what is better quality and what just costs more. And borrow or rent instead of buying things … Read more
While writing yesterday’s post, I started on a tangent about the process of accumulating stuff and decided to develop it into its own post. Even as a person who is not big on shopping and has done multiple purges of stuff over the last bunch of years, I still have too much stuff. Some of … Read more
So … this is likely to ruffle some feathers, but that’s how things go sometimes. (I’m always amazed at things that ruffle feathers—this one, at least, won’t catch me off guard.) There’s been a lot of media attention to teachers’ salaries, and it’s rightly deserved. We’re not appropriately paid for the work we do. Lots … Read more
Yesterday was a fun little milestone day. Yesterday was my 100th post! Yesterday was also the end of my third month of one post per day! It’s been fun. Occasionally stressful. But it’s good to be writing on a regular basis, even if some posts are better than others. Here were the most popular posts … Read more
I have, at times, been a difficult person to love. I struggle with depression and have been suicidal a handful of times over my decades. I’ve done that dance enough times that I know that getting enough sleep, staying connected to people, eating well, and exercising every day in a way that raises my heart … Read more
From my Facebook memories: “Lots of sirens in the distance. I am snuggled in my bed. Every now and then, I am struck by just how different everyone’s experiences are right in this moment.” I wrote something similar at some other point as well, while a few close friends were going through drastically different things … Read more
My biggest question is: how do we fix it? People’s past experiences predict how they’ll treat people currently. People who treat others badly have a history that leaves them with wounds that prevent them from behaving in pro-social ways. All of these anti-social people (ASPs for ease in the rest of this post)—from sexual predators … Read more