Anger

I was challenged recently to see anger as a positive thing, a flow of energy, a necessary force.  This was … different. I have no or very few positive role models for or experiences with anger. The only options offered were exploding or being passive-aggressive. Anger is something bad, something to be avoided whenever possible, … Read more

Riffing on the concept of ‘real’

In a podcasting workshop I took, the half-joke was that you’re not a real podcaster until you forget to hit record. I half-joke with my guests that I hope never to be a real podcaster. For the past few weeks, I’ve been trail running for the first time. (Typically, I’ve saved running for smoother surfaces … Read more

Judging competence and the okayness of being bad

Because very little if anything in life is completely binary, I felt myself needing to qualify many of these thoughts as I wrote. Instead, I’m just going to say here at the beginning that yes, there are exceptions to these generalizations, and since they’re exceptions, their incidence is low. If you’re feeling like you’re the … Read more

2021 Year in Review

photo of a watercolor sketch of the word cultivate

For my final blog post of 2021—the year in review. It was a wild year, deeply creative, with a lot of output. This time last year, I’d just finished writing a book (first round writing, not editing and such), quit my job due to COVID concerns, and was going to see what I could do … Read more

Where did Boolean search functions go?

<waves tiny fist> Back in the day when searches were all done in the library, after card catalogs were made electronic and before the internet, we could limit or expand search results using AND, OR, and NOT. Nearly every time I do a search in a retail setting or a search engine setting, there are … Read more

Sirens and gratitude

Whenever I come into contact with sirens of police, fire, or ambulance, I have a moment of gratitude that whatever they are racing to does not involve me. We live close enough to a few main roads that sirens are not that uncommon. Eating dinner on the back porch and hear them in the distance. … Read more

Big change from removing a small hurdle

We recently replaced our vacuum with a cordless vacuum. It’s remarkably easier to vacuum now. Doing the living room “real quick” actually happens. Getting the bedroom done while the vacuum is out is no big deal. The hallway between the main living spaces and where we store the vacuum has never been cleaner. Doing just … Read more