Posted in differences, know better do better, mental health, mindset, podcasts, socializing

Perhaps a bronze lining would be better

I recently discovered a new podcast: The Happiness Lab. It’s fairly new—there are only eight episodes so far—and I learned about it through a plug on Revisionist History.

This coincided perfectly with a personal goal of adjusting my mindset in certain areas so I can be happier.

Episode 3: A Silver Lining.

They talked about how of the three medalists on the podium at the Olympics, the silver medalist is typically the least happy, sometimes not happy at all. And how this lasts well beyond the end of the winner’s national anthem.

They talked about making less money but double the people around you, versus making twice as much money but half the people around you … and how when asked which they’d prefer, people responded overall in a roughly 50/50 split.

The whole episode was fascinating to listen to. And had some moments of familiarity.

Whether you compare yourself physically, financially, socially, emotionally, or some other way, we all do it sometimes. The more we do, the less happy we are, because Top Dog is a difficult status to achieve and harder to maintain.

Where are you only happy if you’re better than the people around you? And where are you happy regardless of the state of the people around you?

Posted in Sunday photos

My photography journey 10Nov19

The sunset was pretty, but there aren’t any good vantage points very close by. And by the time I found a decent place to stand, most of the pink was gone.

So I walked down the street to see what I could capture.

Yesterday morning, we were trying to stage food to enter a “starts with R” challenge.

That first one of rice is what I entered. It did well.

Posted in know better do better, mental health, mindset, parenting, tips

Be careful!

There is no shortage of parenting advice out there. Its quality varies, and its application varies.

I’ve also figured out that many of the pieces that are excellent are applicable to all humans, not just little ones.

Avoid saying “be careful.”

Why?

It’s useless.

Give specifics. What do you actually want them to watch out for?

For example: be careful crossing the street.

Instead: Cross the street at the corner. Remember to look both ways before you cross, wait for cars to go before you go, and walk.

Yeah, that’s a lot of directions. If they don’t have those in place already, maybe they’re not ready to take that one on alone.

Much of the time, when we tell someone to be careful, it’s not because we think they need the reminder but because we’re trying to do something with our own anxiety about their safety.

So instead of telling them to be careful, tell yourself to be calm, give useful directions if needed, and on we go.

Posted in Sunday photos

My photography journey 3Nov2019

Photos this week are from The Kid’s school (took the camera with for pick-up one day) and from after Halloween.

The lead photo is a stump that, prior to getting into this journey, I never would have noticed. But it makes a neat photo.

 

Trash can. Not the best photo, but I thought the pattern was kind of neat.

 

Most candy here after Halloween is trash. The Kid chooses a couple of pieces and trades in the rest for a new toy (usually LEGO; sometimes plush). I decided to use some to build and take pictures because … why not?