I’ve had so many conversations with people that follow this general path: “I was laying on the couch and reading but couldn’t help but think about all the other things I had to do and how I was wasting time.” We can’t “be productive” all the time. In muscle strength building, the time spent strength … Read more
I’m here today to give some confidence to the slow and less enthusiastic among us. I’m a runner. I’m slow. Lately, I’ve been running 12- to 12.5-minute miles. At the fastest I’ve ever been, I ran 5K in 29:20 (or something close to that). Once. (I had only one other 5K under 30 minutes. It … Read more
A while back, I was at a going-away party at a school. There were sandwiches, chips, etc. set out cafeteria-style, and some of the lunch ladies were helping distribute it. lunch lady: Do you want some chips? me: No thank you. LL: It’s OK to cheat. me: It’s not cheating. LL: You’re on a diet. … Read more
There’s not a bite or a sound clip or a quote for me to pull from this podcast—there was just too much—so I’m just going to recommend listening to the whole thing. Dax Shepard (Armchair Expert) talks with Johann Hari about his research and books exploring addiction. Much of the information was not new to … Read more
Tomorrow’s post is a recommendation for a podcast episode I’ve been listening to. (I still have about half an hour left, and I’m not going to post about it until I’ve heard the whole thing, even though you could listen to half of what I’ve completed so far and it would be worthwhile.) They’re talking … Read more
In January, I wrote about a chart I’d made to track behaviors of health and self-care. I had thought—or, more accurately, hoped—that seeing holes in the list would spur me to do some of the things that simply haven’t been getting done, even if the increase was to once a week, or once every other … Read more
That’s what I wrote on Facebook eight years ago. I had traveled to NJ to present at a conference. (I love doing that!! Public speaking is fun scary.) I had spent several sessions with Michael, my therapist, working on a scripted conversation with my mom. (This is several years after starting with him.) To put … Read more
I wish fat could just be an adjective. (OK, or a noun, but that’s not my context today.) Sometimes, as a description, it’s useful. But there’s so much baggage attached to it. Shame. Guilt. Assumptions. Judgements. From within and from without. We need to be able to love others and love ourselves regardless of body … Read more
Asking questions from a place of curiosity (as opposed to from a place of judgement) isn’t invasive. How can we ever get to know people and grow relationships if we can’t ask questions? If you’re a safe person to me, I am reasonably sure there aren’t any questions you can’t ask. (If you’re not, that’s … Read more
I have, at times, been a difficult person to love. I struggle with depression and have been suicidal a handful of times over my decades. I’ve done that dance enough times that I know that getting enough sleep, staying connected to people, eating well, and exercising every day in a way that raises my heart … Read more