I’ve written and deleted three fully-written posts for today, each full of different stories and details than the others. All were true, but none seemed right. I know that the more I heal from the trauma of my childhood, the more years that go by without choosing the least disingenuous card I can find, the … Read more
People change. In fact, people should be (and in some cases, are) encouraged to change. When you know better, do better. (That’s change.) So I’m conflicted about judging politicians, for example, by stances they held 20 or 30 years ago. (This is also perhaps an indicator that we shouldn’t have career politicians, but that’s another … Read more
You might have heard … there are two really popular series that are at their last stop. I’d love to tell you about them, but I don’t know very much. Avengers is superheroes, right? And Game of Thrones is a Netflix show, maybe? I could look it up, but I’m not that invested in it. … Read more
Shortly after I learned and announced I was pregnant, I received more correspondence from immediate and extended family than I had in years. They let me know how horrible I am; how I ruin everything I touch; how I’m selfish and won’t just “get over” how my family treats me (because there’s nothing wrong with how … Read more
I saw this meme the other day. (I don’t know who to attribute it to, though the saying is widely said.) And while it’s true, you can’t do it all now, either. Many (most? all?) of us spend a lot of time on things that aren’t important (games, mindless scrolling, unintentional TV watching, etc.), and as … Read more
I was listening to a podcast with Norah Jones. At the end, she sang two songs. Now, to be honest with you, I rarely focus much on lyrics when I’m listening to a song for the first time (or most of the time). I have a lot of trouble understanding the words (partially due to … Read more
A friend shared a meme about autism researchers “proving” things that people with autism have been writing about for 20 or more years. I thought about how that is applicable in some way to every group of “other.” When I was going through chemo, I experienced chemo brain, a side effect of many chemotherapies that … Read more
“If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.” Who defines “broke”? So much of what has been going on socio-politically here for decades (centuries?) really boils down to this question, I think. People yearning for “the good old days” were, as far as they were concerned, part of a system that was working just fine. Ain’t … Read more
In my elementary band classes, I’ve spent a fair amount of energy this year on a few non-musical topics: grit (a focus of my whole team), self-awareness, and emotional safety. Grit is a topic for another day. Self-awareness is necessary for any of this to be useful. You can’t change a thought or behavior that … Read more
There seem to be three ways of looking at the plight of other people in relation to one’s self. 1: I don’t want anyone to suffer like I did. This person wants to mentor/coach people through it, or try to fix the problem entirely to decrease the number of people who go through the same … Read more