I have heard people say that they can’t retire, or their spouse can’t retire, because they’d be bored. They’d have nothing to do. I can’t imagine. There are so many things I want to do and learn and try that I suspect that if I retired immediately and lived 50 more years, I would have … Read more
That’s what I wrote on Facebook eight years ago. I had traveled to NJ to present at a conference. (I love doing that!! Public speaking is fun scary.) I had spent several sessions with Michael, my therapist, working on a scripted conversation with my mom. (This is several years after starting with him.) To put … Read more
Yesterday was a fun little milestone day. Yesterday was my 100th post! Yesterday was also the end of my third month of one post per day! It’s been fun. Occasionally stressful. But it’s good to be writing on a regular basis, even if some posts are better than others. Here were the most popular posts … Read more
I have, at times, been a difficult person to love. I struggle with depression and have been suicidal a handful of times over my decades. I’ve done that dance enough times that I know that getting enough sleep, staying connected to people, eating well, and exercising every day in a way that raises my heart … Read more
The Kid is doing track. He’s with a team that, so far, seems very invested in doing right by kids. That’s important, especially in sports. Saturday was our first track meet. The email they sent gave us the location, what the athletes should wear (no uniforms until later in February), that we should arrive no … Read more
This is something that I’ve thought of in defensive and angry contexts but am now thinking about when I’m not triggered… Some people who I talk to totally understand weird crazy shit in my brain. I can talk about a reaction to something that I know isn’t a rational or logical reaction, and they get … Read more
Every now and then, something crosses my path that rattles my thinking. These are all examples of things that I had literally never thought about until someone else shared it. • A post on Facebook pictured a wedding shop window display with a mannequin in a wedding dress in a wheel chair. The caption included, … Read more
The other night, I had my second bouldering competition. (Read here about the first one.) It was organized differently than the first one. As a person who appreciates both efficiency and safety, I liked how it was set up. As a person who prefers to boulder without people watching, I didn’t like it at all. … Read more
Who are you doing it for? Are you doing it to better yourself? (In what way? Why?) Are you just trying to impress people? When you eat junk hiding in the bathroom, or tell your people you went to the gym when you didn’t, or pretend you ran faster than you did… why? There are … Read more
The other day, I shared on Facebook the four most popular posts from December. Two of them were about Christmas. A friend from way back commented that I’d written a lot about Christmas but not about the lights. The Lights. In short (because I’m not sure that a longer piece would do it any more … Read more