TED has started a new podcast series called TED Interviews, where Chris Anderson interviews people who have give TED talks about their talks, and they get more in depth. I haven’t quite listened to all of them, but all that I’ve listened to have been captivating. (As of this writing, there are only six of … Read more
When you are Other in your family—for whatever reason—holidays are stressful. I always felt trapped on Thanksgiving and Christmas, because “the holidays are about family” but my family was toxic. There was nowhere else to go when I was living at home, and it took me moving across the country to be able to set … Read more
I listened to Braving the Wilderness by Brené Brown. (OK, I listened to part of it. But audiobooks and I have a complicated relationship, and I didn’t finish it before it was due back at the library.) Given my unpleasant relationship with my family of origin, this quote spoke to me. There is something comforting … Read more
As I’ve mentioned a couple of times, I’ve been reading and listening to a fair amount of Seth Godin lately. He ends his podcasts with “Go make a ruckus.” In other words, take what you have to offer, and offer it. Another piece of that, though, is that work that isn’t good won’t spread. (Lots … Read more
It’s not about you.
…do better I’ve had so many conversations in so many realms in recent weeks that play into this notion. In a training, we were talking about why people are resistant to change. This was my contribution to the conversation. My parents are loud-and-proud racist. (I’ll refrain from listing examples.) In order for them to change, … Read more
“If you don’t do this, I’m going to tell your parents all the bad things you do when I’m here.” There weren’t really any bad things, but we were allowed to bend the rules when the babysitter was there, and as it was, I was the scape goat for the family’s ills… So in 5th … Read more
Sometimes, I talk about significant things as if they’re just another thing. For example, I’m divorced and re-married. I plainly talk about things in my first marriage, about things in my divorce, about things as they are now. It doesn’t mean that none of it is significant, or that it didn’t matter, or that it … Read more