Our expectations around family are backwards

As a person estranged from my family of origin, I’ve been told many times that I am obligated to be in contact or spend holidays or whatever because they’re family and there are things that you overlook or put up with because they’re family. (I wonder how the family sounds in your head compared to … Read more

Judging competence and the okayness of being bad

Because very little if anything in life is completely binary, I felt myself needing to qualify many of these thoughts as I wrote. Instead, I’m just going to say here at the beginning that yes, there are exceptions to these generalizations, and since they’re exceptions, their incidence is low. If you’re feeling like you’re the … Read more

2Jan22 photos: lantern festival

photo of a scene of pandas and green plants, all made of lanterns

We took the opportunity to go to an Asian lantern festival at the Central Florida Zoo and Botanical Garden while we were relatively nearby for Christmas. I’m not entirely sure what I was expecting, but what we saw exceeded my expectations—it was delightful! Lovely to see some cactus. A little bit like being home. Though … Read more

2021 Year in Review

photo of a watercolor sketch of the word cultivate

For my final blog post of 2021—the year in review. It was a wild year, deeply creative, with a lot of output. This time last year, I’d just finished writing a book (first round writing, not editing and such), quit my job due to COVID concerns, and was going to see what I could do … Read more

Do you have a hobby?

At Kennedy Space Center, there’s a memorial area to the astronauts lost on Columbia and Challenger. There’s a case—like a large shadowbox—for each astronaut with their name, a photo, and some items summarizing their lives and their humanity. A piece of sheet music for one who was a musician. A uniform and katana for one … Read more